Compassion, Not Pity

Blog Post: Compassion, not Pity

Walking around Durban, it is hard to not see poverty on every street corner. For instance, once a week I go to an internet café to have a cappuccino and fast internet. It’s about a fifteen-minute walk from the hospital to the café called Peg. On the way at nearly every corner there is at least one person walking amongst the cars begging for money. Cynically, I think that most of these people are putting on a show- faking a limp, crippled hand, have a down trout look on their face, etc. Or maybe it is my way of trying to cope with the need in front of me. That being said, I do believe that most are in need- whether it be financial, food, resources, spiritual healing, or something else.

            At times, I wonder if people driving by or walking by notice these individuals, do they fade into the background of the cityscape? Or maybe people are so struck by the poverty around them they feel powerless to do anything about it. Whatever the situation maybe there is something wrong about this.

            Which has made me ask myself, how should I respond? Not just to poverty here Durban, but poverty in general. The easy response would be to throw money at the situation. Which in the short run works, but how is the person receiving money valued or impacted by that. They are receiving something that they need correct, but is that truly what they need? Another solution would be to change the system, but in reality that is a lengthy process which takes tons of experience and insight to change. Although this should be worked on, it doesn’t solve the immediate need. So one thing that I have come up with is compassion, not pity.

Pity, to me means seeing a person in need feeling sorry for them and their situation and that is only response. Compassion to me means feeling for someone, seeing the situation he or she is in, and responding to that need accurately. It seems to me that most people don’t need money, although that may be what they are asking for. If a person comes to ask me for money, I normally tell them that I don’t give out money, but I would like to buy them groceries if that is what they are truly in need of. That also gives me a chance to actually speak with the person and get to know them. Although it is hard here in South Africa, most of the time in the States I try and refer the person to resources that are better equipped to help their situation.

            I’m not saying this is what everyone is called to do. But, I think it addresses a bigger issue of valuing people. In Matthew 14:14-21, Jesus is filled compassion for the people that are following him. He heals their sick and decides that the people must be feed. So he takes five loaves of bread and two fish and feeds five thousand people with food left over. If Christ had compassion are five thousand, what is one person asking for food.

            This is not to say that, every single person I come across I go and buy groceries for. But, I do try and stop and talk with person at least. Who knows whom one will run into?

            That being said, thank you for reading my blog. All I write is meant to be an encouragement. This current situation I have been processing since I have gotten here to South Africa, although in Indy is was something I thought about. Here it is a reality one can’t get away from so easily. Things here continue to be in full motion. Hopefully in my next few posts I will be able to give you a day to day of what I have been doing.